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.Of all the lovers of a girl he only is her true husband who possesses thequalities that are liked by her, and such a husband only enjoys real superiority over her,because he is the husband of love.'Footnotes1There is a good deal of truth in the last few observations.Woman is a monogamous animal, andloves but one, and likes to feel herself alone in the affections of one man, and cannot bear rivals.Itmay also be taken as a general rule that women either married to, or kept by, rich men love themfor their wealth but not for themselves.KAMASUTRA69CHAPTER VON CERTAIN FORMS OF MARRIAGE1WHEN a girl cannot meet her lover frequently in private, she should send the daughter ofher nurse to him, it being understood that she has confidence in her, and had previouslygained her over to her interests.On seeing the man, the daughter of the nurse should, inthe course of conversation, describe to him the noble birth, the good disposition, thebeauty, talent, skill, knowledge of human nature and affection of the girl in such a way asnot to let him suppose that she had been sent by the girl, and should thus create affectionfor the girl in the heart of the man.To the girl also she should speak about the excellentqualities of the man, especially of those qualities which she knows are pleasing to thegirl.She should, moreover, speak with disparagement of the other lovers of the girl, andtalk about the avarice and indiscretion of their parents, and the fickleness of theirrelations.She should also quote samples of many girls of ancient times, such asSakoontala and others, who, having united themselves with lovers of their own caste andtheir own choice, were ever happy afterwards in their society.And she should also tell ofother girls who married into great families, and being troubled by rival wives, becamewretched and miserable, and were finally abandoned.She should further speak of thegood fortune, the continual happiness, the chastity, obedience, and affection of the man,and if the girl gets amorous about him, she should endeavour to allay her shame2 and herfear as well as her suspicions about any disaster that might result from her marriage.In aword, she should act the whole part of a female messenger by telling the girl all about theman's affection for her, the places he frequented, and the endeavours he made to meether, and by frequently repeating, `It will be all right if the man will take you awayforcibly and unexpectedly.'The Forms of MarriageWhen the girl is gained over, and acts openly with the man as his wife, he should causefire to be brought from the house of a Brahman, and having spread the Kusha grass uponthe ground, and offered an oblation to the fire, he should marry her according to theprecepts of the religious law.After this he should inform his parents of the fact, becauseit is the opinion of ancient authors that a marriage solemnly contracted in the presence offire cannot afterwards be set aside.After the consummation of the marriage, the relations of the man should gradually bemade acquainted with the affair, and the relations of the girl should also be apprised of itin such a way that they may consent to the marriage, and overlook the manner in which itwas brought about, and when this is done they should afterwards be reconciled byaffectionate presents and favourable conduct.In this manner the man should marry thegirl according to the Gandharva form of marriage [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]
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.Of all the lovers of a girl he only is her true husband who possesses thequalities that are liked by her, and such a husband only enjoys real superiority over her,because he is the husband of love.'Footnotes1There is a good deal of truth in the last few observations.Woman is a monogamous animal, andloves but one, and likes to feel herself alone in the affections of one man, and cannot bear rivals.Itmay also be taken as a general rule that women either married to, or kept by, rich men love themfor their wealth but not for themselves.KAMASUTRA69CHAPTER VON CERTAIN FORMS OF MARRIAGE1WHEN a girl cannot meet her lover frequently in private, she should send the daughter ofher nurse to him, it being understood that she has confidence in her, and had previouslygained her over to her interests.On seeing the man, the daughter of the nurse should, inthe course of conversation, describe to him the noble birth, the good disposition, thebeauty, talent, skill, knowledge of human nature and affection of the girl in such a way asnot to let him suppose that she had been sent by the girl, and should thus create affectionfor the girl in the heart of the man.To the girl also she should speak about the excellentqualities of the man, especially of those qualities which she knows are pleasing to thegirl.She should, moreover, speak with disparagement of the other lovers of the girl, andtalk about the avarice and indiscretion of their parents, and the fickleness of theirrelations.She should also quote samples of many girls of ancient times, such asSakoontala and others, who, having united themselves with lovers of their own caste andtheir own choice, were ever happy afterwards in their society.And she should also tell ofother girls who married into great families, and being troubled by rival wives, becamewretched and miserable, and were finally abandoned.She should further speak of thegood fortune, the continual happiness, the chastity, obedience, and affection of the man,and if the girl gets amorous about him, she should endeavour to allay her shame2 and herfear as well as her suspicions about any disaster that might result from her marriage.In aword, she should act the whole part of a female messenger by telling the girl all about theman's affection for her, the places he frequented, and the endeavours he made to meether, and by frequently repeating, `It will be all right if the man will take you awayforcibly and unexpectedly.'The Forms of MarriageWhen the girl is gained over, and acts openly with the man as his wife, he should causefire to be brought from the house of a Brahman, and having spread the Kusha grass uponthe ground, and offered an oblation to the fire, he should marry her according to theprecepts of the religious law.After this he should inform his parents of the fact, becauseit is the opinion of ancient authors that a marriage solemnly contracted in the presence offire cannot afterwards be set aside.After the consummation of the marriage, the relations of the man should gradually bemade acquainted with the affair, and the relations of the girl should also be apprised of itin such a way that they may consent to the marriage, and overlook the manner in which itwas brought about, and when this is done they should afterwards be reconciled byaffectionate presents and favourable conduct.In this manner the man should marry thegirl according to the Gandharva form of marriage [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]